My boyfriend has some problems getting and keeping an erection. He just started taking Cialis last month and it helps, but doesn’t work all the time. He said his insurance only covers six pills a month and I’m pretty sure he’s supposed to take one a day. So that could be the issue.. I have also noticed that he is not able to ejaculate. I looked up Cialis thinking maybe that was a side effect but it said nothing about it.
He doesn’t talk about this stuff with me so everytime its gets brought up, it’s always by me. I am careful not to come across as making fun of him or being mean about it but I’m a little hesitant to continue the relationship if this is going to be an ongoing problem. To me, sex is a huge part of a relationship. I have a high sex drive so my partner needs to be able to have sex at a moments notice.
The other problem is that because he sometimes can’t get an erection, I am unable to give oral sex because literally nothing happens. And it’s very awkward for me. I don’t know what to do. I feel bad that I can never return the favor and I don’t know what else to do.
I need some advice here. Please.
I don’t think he’s nervous. He’s a really confident guy. I guess he may be embarrassed when this happens (who wouldn’t be?) but he knows he can talk to me about it and I’m not going to make fun of him or make him feel bad. This has been going on for about a month and my patience is wearing thin.
@barcode- he smokes cigarettes and pot, drinks alcohol several times a week, is about.. 40 lbs overweight I’d guess and doesn’t eat well. I know these are all causes but I also know that he probably isn’t going to stop doing any of them or start eating healthy.
@glasshalfull- I keep reading things about stress or being nervous but I don’t see that at all. He isn’t nervous and as far as I know, he has little to no stress in his life. He has an incredibly laid-back job, he’s close with his family, it seems like things are going smoothly. I know the things he does are not helping and may even be the direct cause. I just don’t see him stopping any of those. If I was a guy and had this problem, I’d be doing anything and everything to fix it but it must not be as important to him as it would be to me. I don’t think he’d want to lose me and I’m trying to be patient and understanding but like I said, sex is an important part of a relationship and if someone isn’t happy with it, they’re going to start looking elsewhere. I wish he’d wake up and realize that.
He needs to make some lifestyle changes in order to get his s hit together!
No smoking – no beer/ale – no booze – no drugs. ANY of these can interrupt blood flow to your penis resulting in diminished libido & cause erectile dysfunction or impotence.
Stress, anxiety, depression, fatigue, crappy diet, lack of exercise, & some medications can also cause malfunction at the junction.
on: 28th March 13